Why not you?

March 7, 2012

1. Why not you?

2. After doing your best, acquiesce; in the end Life will have the upper hand.

3. Losses will be forthcoming; cut them as they come. Take your time but don’t forget.

4. Give up unrealistic expectations; growing up is loosing the futile illusion of arriving at perfect destinations… so choose your imperfections well.


11 Responses to “Why not you?”

  1. Richard said

    Thank you. I suppose all ambition and vanity is futile. It is better to remember the sweetness of existence, despite the odds.

  2. exuvia said

    We have that privilege; the essential grandeur and resilience of our Nature.

    Our state of mind depends on how well we digest the hard and soft facts of life.

    To Love anyone or anything in this world is to Love in spite of Death’s claim. Isn’t that the magnificence of Love? The fact that it still stands, warm, radiant and… in spite of.

    Our chemical specters will subside but there is always THAT.

  3. exuvia said

    Love is an independent source; in every aspect independent of circumstance.

    The fruits of circumstance are pleasurable and painful, but pain and pleasure neither touch nor tap the Heart; they rise and fall in a river of blood.

    Love is not blood bound, It is core and not periphery.

  4. Richard said

    Yes – constancy, gentleness and supremacy all combined.

  5. exuvia said

    “Let me not to the marriage of true minds

    Admit impediments. Love is not love

    Which alters when it alteration finds,

    Or bends with the remover to remove:

    O no! it is an ever-fixed mark

    That looks on tempests and is never shaken;

    It is the star to every wandering bark,

    Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.

    Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks

    Within his bending sickle’s compass come:

    Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,

    But bears it out even to the edge of doom.

    If this be error and upon me proved,

    I never writ, nor no man ever loved.”

    William Shakespeare

    (1564 – 1616)

  6. Richard said

    Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offence. Love keeps no score of wrongs; does not gloat over other men’s sins, but delights in the truth. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope and its endurance. Love will never come to an end.

    … there are three things that last forever: faith, hope and love; but the greatest of them all is love.

    1 Corinthians 13 vv 4-8, 13

    Passages like these remind me how far I fall short.

  7. exuvia said


    I have come to think that ‘self’ is a ladder much too short to brave the heights of Love.
    But which then is the door to altruism?

    What we can easily reach with our fleshy rake of nerves and few pints of blood are “Dead wind’s and spent waves’ riot” (Algernon Charles Swinburne)

    Do you know if Paul is the author or if he is quoting a religious-poetical heritage?

  8. exuvia said

    I would not hold the deaf-dumb-blind nature of ‘self’ in terms of Love against it; it is the way it is… impotent, limited and funny in its claim to power.

    It is my hope that ‘self’ is only second nature.

  9. Richard said

    I think it’s Paul’s own.

    A love that passes all understanding. Romans 8, possibly.

  10. I think internally love is in the past, externally love sits in the future.

    You can love yourself, i believe that, the ladder is not too short. But you can only love yourself in the past, not what you are or expect to be. So long as you subscribe to freewill, you can’t predict what you may be in the future and can’t therefore feel love for that future self.

    But love of others takes an entirely different temporal vector. To love externally depends on future. To love something depends on it remaining what it is. If it changes, well the object of your love no longer exists. Sure you can learn to love what it has changed into, but still you are not loving what you once loved. Since humans have an ever fluctuating nature, loving a human requires that you will always be loving something new every day- because humans are different every day. Its a love that always negates itself, so you need to love the sequence of change. Love the progression as it forms into the future.

    I suppose you could likewise love your own expected progression into the future, but that seems like a pointless arrogant endeavour.


  11. Exuvia said

    The capacity to love, to give attention – Psyche – as a ‘flea’ between the inner and the outer world; between the past and the future, hoping to retain or recover, to obtain or procure. I see restlessness.

    Self and ‘self’ are matters apart; one is the Lover the other an object of its Love.

    The changing face of the hour mocks our love of anything deriving its quality from, and in, time. The biological path and tool to it, the physical mind-body, is slain in the end, and the grasp of, and on, the world is helplessly lost. The privilege lies in being the Lover and not the dying object.

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